I remember back in the 60’s it wasn’t unusual for a kid accompany their dad or parents to the local bar for a shot and a beer, but the one time and only one time this happened was when I was knee high to a grasshopper I was with just my dad he was sitting at the bar and I was playing some bowling game and I noticed at the end of the bar was a big heavy set Blk man sitting all alone and when he looked down and saw my dad , he got up grabbed his cigarette pack and zippo and walked down to where my dad was and sat down next to him ….dad didn’t look at him at first but I heard the Blk man speak hand he had the deepest voice I ever heard when he spoke and my dad bought him a beer I didn’t think anything of it but when my game was over I went up to my dad and that’s when I saw how big this Blk man’s hands were as he rubbed my head…dad was looking nervous something I rarely ever witnessed though my dad wasn’t small next to this big black man Ruben, dad was small, the Blk man could drink a a glass of beer down in one gulp and dad was buying him one after another than the Blk man started on shots, dad would have one every once and a while but wasn’t known as a whiskey drinker I asked dad for another quarter and Ruben gave me a couple of quarters …dad told me to give them back but Ruben insisted and gave dad a stern look and dad went silent and then a nervous laugh ….so as I went back to my bowling game with 2 quarters now it took twice as long so when I finished I went back up to dad to ask if I could play the jukebox when I noticed both dad and Ruben were gone right about then I had to pee so I went to the men’s room and this tavern had the old type trough urinal and when I walked in dad and Ruben were standing side by side only I saw Ruben’s had his huge hand down the back of my dads hand and dad had his hand infront of Ruben…not knowing what I saw until later ….because soon as I walked in they removed both their hands in a flash and shortly after that dad took me home , dad never said anything about it and I never asked him but all I know is he dropped me off at home and said he would be back in a little bit….and left….it wasn’t until later I put 2&2 together and realized dad was bi and had a thing for BBC….and I have no idea if mom ever knew about it, I never mentioned what I saw that day to anyone